Infidelity and the role it plays in divorce

On behalf of Kirk Montoute Dawson LLP posted in Family Law on Friday, April 25, 2014.

It has been said that you shouldn’t stray from your relationship unless you are prepared to accept the consequences if you’re found out.  It really is no suprise to most people in Calgary that infidelity is often the straw that breaks the camel’s back when it comes to ending a relationship. Though some who are able to make open relationships and marriages work, most people are unwilling to allow a partner to have relationships outside of the marriage. Consequently, when many people discover that their partners have been cheating, they file for divorce.

That is one of the reasons why individuals having affairs always try to be so discrete. Even the 42-year-old Canadian businessman behind Ashley Madison, a website designed to bring individuals who wish to have an affair together has spoken about the need for discretion. He has been so bold as to suggest that having an affair is good for marriage, so long as no one gets caught.

Regardless of whether someone believes in the businessman’s theory about cheating, it is undeniable that cheating is a big reason why many people divorce in Calgary. Even if his assertion that approximately 70 to 80 percent of men will be unfaithful during their relationships is correct, it doesn’t mean that partners are willing to remain married to spouses who cheat.

Realistically, however, an individual does not have to have a reason as to why he or she wants to separate from a spouse. Alberta does not require that one spouse be at fault for the deterioration of a marriage. Perhaps one spouse cheated, perhaps there have been long-standing disagreements over money, perhaps the couple just realizes that they individually want different things; regardless of the reason, the couple can divorce.

When going through a divorce, however, it is often important to work with an experienced divorce lawyer to negotiate the legal aspects of separation.

Source: Calgary Herald, “Adultery is good for your marriage — if you don’t get caught, says infidelity website boss,” Danielle Demetriou, April 23, 2014

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